EVERYTHING IS NEGOTIABLE: The 5 Tactics to Get What You Want in Life, Love, and Work by Meg Myers Morgan is this week’s book pick worth reading.
IPPY award winning author of “Harebrained” and successful Tedx speaker Meg Myers Morgan is releasing her latest self-help title “Everything is Negotiable: The 5 Tactics to Get What You Want in Life, Love, and Work” , which deconstructs our preconceived notions about adulthood, parenthood, and career paths, and illuminates how they can limit us.
“Everything is Negotiable” draws from author Meg Myers Morgan’s experiences mentoring and professionally coaching her graduate students, raising her kids, and achieving success as a speaker with TED Talk “Negotiating for Your Life” for TEDxOU in 2016 and as author of Foreword Review: Book of the Year “Harebrained: It seemed like a good idea at the time” to provide lessons in balancing work and life for high-potential women. Chock full of powerful advice, case studies, and laugh-out-loud stories, this humorous yet commanding book will inspire you to clarify goals, overcome doubts, achieve work life balance, and set the terms for the life you want.
Dr. Meg Myers Morgan is an assistant professor at the University of Oklahoma and the director of graduate programs in Public Administration and Nonprofit Management on the OU-Tulsa campus. She speaks publicly about recruiting and retaining talent; negotiating in work and life; and developing women as leaders. Meg holds a PhD and an MPA from the University of Oklahoma, and a degree in English and Creative Writing with honors from Drury University. She trained in Executive and Leadership Coaching at Columbia University. She lives in Tulsa with her husband and their two young daughters.
- What drew your attention to seeing the difference in ways men and women negotiate?
We all know that women negotiate for salaries at alarmingly lower rates than men. But salaries are just one of the negotiations women neglect. Some of the most important negotiations start long before we ever get to the money. Women are missing out on a host of chances to set better terms in their life and work. As a faculty member and the lead of a graduate program, I meet with so many people who are considering going back to school. I began to notice strong differences between how men and women approached their conversations with me. Men typically talk to me about tactical concerns: cost, schedule, course load, etc. Women would talk to me holistically, often citing their family obligations, career expectations, and, frequently, their own insecurities. In general, women tend to negotiate against themselves in a way I never really see my male students do. Those negotiations against themselves are part of why they never get to the part of negotiating for higher salaries.
- How did your experience as a speaker and teacher prepare you for your writing career?
As a public speaker, and during my time in the classroom, I have to get people comfortable, and trusting me, so they can listen to what I have to say or teach. That means I have to be commanding and comforting. I need to have powerful things to say, but I want to tell it in a funny and relatable way. To me, humor is the best conduit for any lesson. This book is like listening to a powerful lecture, but with the humor and comfort of a chat with friend over happy hour.
- How does your book differ from a lot of “tough love” self help books, and why is this an important distinction?
I think the trend of “tough love” development books has its place, but that’s not my writing style. Or how I mentor women. I find women are extremely thoughtful and reflective and like to take every choice in their lives and roll them around so they can examine them from all angles. That’s what this book is: a thoughtful and reflective look at our relationship with our own ambition and with ourselves.
- How did your experience with motherhood play a role in your decision to write this book?
Women are conditioned to think motherhood is the end of certain things. This is why so many women I talk to will tell me they are considering graduate school or a promotion, but need to make sure it doesn’t conflict with their timeline to have kids. We’ve asked women to pit all their wants against each other and then walk around asking, “Can women really have it all?” I wanted to speak to that specifically. This book dives deep into idea of women negotiating for everything they want–family, education, career, and happiness.
- Where do you find inspiration for these lessons in life, love, and work?
My children are gold mine! I watch them at their young age be so self-possessed and
determined. But then I see my peers, or women I mentor, lack that confidence. How do
young girls go from, “Watch me, I can do anything!” to growing up and saying, “I’m
worried if I ask for a higher salary I’ll seem greedy.” I’m also incredibly
inspired by my students. I teach in a professional graduate program so every student is juggling a demanding job and a busy personal life–often with kids–and yet they are in class, investing time and energy. I can’t think of anything more inspirational than watching these professionals working to have it all.