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Why You’re Dating and Not Finding Quality Men

Dating can be a real pain in the butt, right? It can be a lot of work that leads to a lot of nothing. I conducted a survey recently and asked women what their biggest challenge was when they date.

The #1 response was: I’m not meeting quality men.

Can you relate??

I hear this from women all the time. I’m tired of meeting losers. All the good ones are gay or taken. All the men I meet are bald, boring, messy, sex-crazed, they are too this, not enough that. And the most common: I just don’t feel a spark with any men I’m meeting.

Yah, I know. Not having quality men to date really sucks.

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It WOULD suck, that is …IF it were true.

The idea that there aren’t any quality men is a myth.

There are about 45 million single men over the age of 35 in the United States. About 8 million are over 65. There are about 7 million single men in Britain. About 2 million in Australia…and those are just the ones using online dating. Lots of men. You get the idea.

I searched on www.match.com today for men over 40, taller than 5′7″, college educated, non-smoking, occasional drinker, making $75,000+.

Within only 30 miles of my house there are over 2000 of these guys. 2000!

No quality men, indeed.

And you only need ONE!

So listen, there are things you can do to work on this. And you have to, because you can’t move forward assuming every guy you meet is going to be a loser.

If you find yourself meeting men who never seem to interest you or warrant another date; if you have stopped dating because you’re “tired of meeting losers”…here’s some advice from a gal who has been there, and now enjoys a stellar relationship with the perfect man…for me.

1. Be a good picker. Know what you want and must have, and make sure it’s the Grownup You doing the picking; not the 18 year old who still expects all kinds of wacky things that no longer matter and are unrealistic qualities for grownup men to have.

Be willing to forgo the idea of perfection and find a REAL man. He doesn’t have to be flawless to rock your world. (And btw how flawless are you? We’ll discuss that later.)

2. Give him a chance to prove himself. DO NOT tell me that you can tell in the first 10 minutes whether a man is a potential suitor or life  partner. If I hear this one more time….I’m going to burst.

Unless he spits when he talks, smells, or is drunk; give him a chance. As I say on Page 19 of my eBook Confessions of the World’s Worst Dater: Her 7 Secrets to Finally Finding Love quick judgments are often a response to a lot of things that have nothing to do with the man sitting in front of you.

Quickly dismissing the men you meet is most often about self-protection and living past experiences in the present. I mean, after all, if every man you meet is unworthy then there is no risk you’ll actually start dating or get in a relationship! Yep, that’s a surefire way to avoid ever being hurt or rejected. You go girl.

Listen, I was the master of this, sister, but finally learned how I consistently self sabotaged. And when I saw it, and dealt with it, my life changed. If you haven’t already, read my story in my eBook. I had epiphanies. They led me to true and amazing love. I want you to go there with me.

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This is an excerpt from Myth #4: of my FREE e-Course:6 Mega Dating Myths. If you haven’t already, sign up over there at the right —-> to get my full course. I’m only giving it away for a short time longer.  You’ll also get notification of my upcoming free Grownup Girls’ Club online event!

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