By Dr. Sally Witt
Do you feel stuck? Do you panic at the thought of anyone touching your things? Do you have piles of paper, and “stuff” that you never touch? Is the thought of getting things organized putting you into an anxiety attack? Do people offer to help you get cleaned up and organized because they are worried about you?
Many of us have emotional blocks to being more organized. Sometimes it is a different way of thinking. There are people that think so differently than others, that their mental connections for where things are just don’t make sense to anyone else. If it is working for them, that is fine. If it is working for them, then they know where things are, they feel comfortable in their space, they are in control of their time, and they keep up with their professional and private lives.
Sometimes it is a control issue, and they are rebelling against feelings of being overly controlled in their life. Perhaps they felt that their lives were ordered by someone else in a way that made them feel rigid and unhappy. If this is your situation, then you need to figure out who activated those feelings for you (it is probably right on the tip of your tongue), and work on that relationship. It is not worth it to let old feelings of anger and resentment affect your life now, as an adult. Clear away the negative emotional blocks, and feel free to be in control of your own life.
Sometimes people need help working through these feelings, and sometimes they can clear it up by themselves. If the mother or father or teacher in this relationship is still available to them, maybe they can even discuss this old pattern with them. Often, the parent or authority figure was in a similar pattern with someone in their life. How wonderful if it is possible to clear up the relationship as well as the old feelings!
If the relationship cannot be resolved because the person is not available for some reason, there are valid techniques to still express your feelings. Talk to a chair that you imagine them to be in, or have a person be a surrogate so that you can have a live person talk back to you. If this is a serious issue involving physical or emotional abuse, please do these activities with a qualified therapist to guide you.
Try positive affirmations. Affirmations should be used three times each, three times a day, for at least three weeks. Read them out loud, and write them in your own handwriting three times each. They should be positive, in the present tense as if they are already true, and they should be in simple sentences from your own perspective. Some examples:
1. It is easy for me to get organized, and stay organized.
2. My files are neat and up-to-date.
3. I always keep up with my paperwork and reading.
4. I prioritize projects easily and naturally.
5. I am free of stress, and stay organized easily.
You can make a recording of yourself saying your affirmations, and play it on your computer at intervals throughout the day. Leave yourself post-its with affirmations, or create a screen saver with a great affirmation, like – I am clear of clutter!
Do some research on Feng Shui. Find some books and articles that are simple in concept and “Americanized” in their explanations. The essence of the topic is that your environment and the energy patterns that you live and work in affect everything about your thought patterns, your clarity, your work, your spiritual and energy flow, your success, and your financial health. If you could be more successful in life, isn’t it worth a day off to re-arrange your stuff? Piles of papers, and disorganization create “stuck” energy in your life that cramps your flow of thought, joy, and prosperity. You manifest and create in your life that which you show the universe that you want. If you surround yourself with chaos and junk, that is what you will get back in your life.
Colors make a huge difference to your moods, your health, and your energy flow. If you need to perk up, try yellows and rose. If you need to relax, try greens and blues. Smells make a difference, read some articles on aromatherapy and bring the qualities into your life and your home that you need.
Tell your friends and family that you are turning a new leaf, and ask for their emotional support. Make sure that they understand that you are not giving them permission to nag you – this is a big topic for you, and a new way of life.
Find the reasons behind your destructive behavior patterns, and you can release the feelings and naturally change your behavior. Add new motivation and purpose in your life, and feel the flow of energy for your emotional, spiritual, and physical balance. With a better energy flow, and getting clear of the emotional blocks, you will feel more alive and on top of your life. Your abundance and prosperity will follow!
About the Author:
Dr. Sally Witt is a Breakthrough Coach and Hypnotherapist. She has a Ph.D. in Spiritual Counseling, and has a unique background in traditional psychology as well as intense alternative and metaphysical training. She is also the eViews Editor for WE Magazine. In addition, Dr. Witt is the author of “Your Mind Holds the Key to Health, Happiness, and Prosperity”, available on Amazon.com. You can contact her at the Center for Healing and Training, Inc. at 215/736-0900. Visit her online at www.drsallywitt.com.