WE Magazine’s Worth Reading book of the week is Nurturing Wellness through Radical Self Care: A Living in Balance Guide and Workbook by Janet Nestor
You can begin to Live in balance today and enjoy a happier, increasingly more contented life. Janet Nestor offers how ways to help men and women create positive change in their lives.
1) It seems the primary goal of your book is to encourage the reader to step into his or her personal power. How do we do that, and what is the benefit of showcasing our personal power?
To be personally empowered is to be confident and strong in all areas of our life. We all want to feel strong, but many of us struggle with it. We feel that stepping into our power will seem uncomfortable to others or give the impression we are self-centered and superior. This could not be further from the truth. Personal power is without ego, and it brings feelings of safety into our core self and adds feelings of security to friendships and love relationships.
Personal Empowerment allows each of us to stand straight and tall like the biggest tree, yet bend with the wind when challenges come into our life.
Most of all it allows us to give and accept love more completely.
How do we accomplish personal empowerment? We live mindfully, and one day at a time we
• live a now focused life
• think positive thoughts and create positive beliefs
• take action based on our positive beliefs
• take the time to calm the inner sea, and cherish the natural silence
that lives within us.
• create good boundaries that keep our life balanced and manageable
• love and accept ourselves unconditionally.
2) You say in your book “Healing is not about recovery from illness, surgery, or divorce. It is about our virtues, or the positive aspects of self: Acceptance, wellness, joy, kindness, love, tenacity, vigor, tenderness, and compassion.” How can we embrace this kind of healing?
This is a great question, because it is linked very closely to Radical Self-Care and our ability to meet our deepest emotional and spiritual needs.
Nurturing Wellness through Radical Self-Care asks us to broaden our thinking, raise our awareness about health and healing, and increase our clarity about what it means to be a human being. The human body and soul needs care and attention to thrive.
We think more globally when we care for our children or our elderly parents, but we don’t always think universally about our own health and well-being. We are usually willing to give ourselves the basics, but we feel self-centered and selfish when we truly love and care for ourselves.
However, to be healthy we need a deep and abiding self-love.
Instead of trying to decide what we need to do in order to obtain physical health and happiness, we might ask ourselves what the human body, mind, and spirit requires to be content and joyful? It is contentment and joy and the other virtues that create health and long lasting well-being.
We are asked to embrace the truth that healing is a 24/7 – 365 day a year – ongoing physical reality rather than an event that happens when we get sick, experience an injury, or are emotionally wounded. We are asked to be kind and compassionate with ourselves, to care for our wounds with love and tenderness, and give our body and mind time to heal. We are asked to go straight to the heart of the matter and change our definition of healing and embrace the idea that physical, emotional, and spiritual healing are all one-in-the-same.
When we realize that our physical body has innate intelligence and consciousness, and our organs and organ systems have intelligence and a consciousness that requires love and care, we automatically begin to embrace authentic healing.
3) What is the difference between daily personal self-care and RADICAL Self Care?
To most of us self-care means we get enough rest, eat healthy foods, exercise regularly, are well groomed, and have regular dental and medical check-ups. Some of us don’t include our deeper emotional or spiritual needs.
Radical Self-Care nourishes the whole person: the intellectual, emotional, spiritual, energetic, intuitive and the physical. Simply stated, Radical Self-Care is an ongoing process and a way of life, not daily activities.
The word radical when used as an adjective means to go to the source or heart of a problem. When you and I use this approach we dig deep within our heart and soul and take action to meet our deepest longings. We make fundamental changes that positively affect our quality of life. We create relaxation, joy, and feelings of health and contentment. Our eyes begin to twinkle and our heart feels warm and cozy because we are emotionally and spiritually full.
4) How do you personally embrace Radical Self Care?
I find nature to be an excellent teacher and role model. The more time I spend with her, the more I learn about co-operation and spiritual unity.
Nature is a powerful and sustaining force. The earth is solid and strong, yet she maintains a free and flowing nature. Animals living in the wild know how to stay alive in the most adverse situations. They live in the moment, don’t hold grudges or seek revenge.
My favorite way to embrace Radical Self-Care to surround myself in nature, quiet my mind, and enjoy life as it is at the moment. I do this through walking and resting meditation and energetic self-care using the information in Nurturing Wellness through Radical Self-Care. At the top of my list are energetic techniques that encourage a deep meditative state of heightened awareness.
An Excerpt: Nurturing Wellnss through Radical Self-Care: A Living in Balance Guide and Workbook:
I have chosen to share a philosophy of healing that was defined for me a year or so ago during meditation. This new way of thinking is going to change your life and the lives of those you love and cherish. You’ll change your self-talk and change the way you interact with members of your family when they are sick or suffering. It applies to the work you’ll encounter during your Nurturing Wellness through Radical Self-Care Program. You’ll have some new things to consider as you choose your strategies for a positive life journey.
Every person alive is interested in the concepts of health and healing.
Health determines the quality of our lives. The word “healing,” the way we usually think of it (but not the way we use it) indicates a positive change taking place within our mind, body, emotions, and spirit—or within our family system. But, if we are not careful, the word “healing” can take on negative implications. I am asking you to raise your level of awareness.
Most of us feel we have to heal our emotional and physical wounds in order to achieve robust health. We feel that we have to draw upon outside resources in order to accomplish overall well-being. If we are sick or injured we are interested in our speed of healing, wanting to heal as quickly as possible. If we are anxious or depressed, we want those feelings to disappear. When asked how we feel about our illness or injury, we reply almost unconsciously using negative concepts that are deeply ingrained within our hearts and minds. Often our replies sound similar to
• “I’m healing. I’ve been impatient, but I am gradually getting better.”
• “I never thought I’d still be healing from this illness after all these
months. I’m ready to go back to work, but I’m not quite up to it.”
• “I’ve had better days. I’m tired all the time, and I nap a lot.”
• “Why did I have to get so sick? I’m tired of being in the house all the
time and tired of being a burden to my family.”
Each time we think or speak the word “healing” in this way, we indicate that we are somehow broken or impaired by events such as surgery, the flu, a car accident, an early life trauma, a fight with a family member, or the loss of a loved one. Think about the innocent words you and I might have spoken, completely unaware of their implications. Within the same sentence we’ve used the word “healing” in association with words like illness, suffering, and death to create what I refer to as a negative pairing. A negative pairing occurs when the word “healing” is placed with words related to a weakened state of being, disease, and suffering. Words like “illness” and “disease” are lower frequency words and perceived as negative, therefore carrying a negative emotional–physical impact. When we habitually pair a high-frequency, positive impact word like “healing” with low-frequency negative impact words, we inhibit our mental–physical–spiritual ability to heal.
Negative phrases such as, “this illness has been exhausting” reinforce the fact that your illness has lasted a long time and you’ve had to fight your way through it. “I am finally healing” might be said to mean, “I was so sick I thought I was going to die.” Our carelessly spoken words actually reinforce our suffering and support our current perception of suffering.
They remind us of our emotional–physical struggle with illness, feeding our mind and body negative messages about the ability to heal. Each time you innocently say words similar to those above, you may be slowing your recovery in any current and all subsequent illnesses by declaring, “I’m a slow healer” and “illness threatens me.” The more positive we are, the more we pair positive words and concepts together. The more we pair positive words and concepts together, the healthier we become.
Healing is not about recovery from illness, surgery, or divorce. It is about our virtues, or the positive aspects of self: acceptance, wellness, joy, kindness, love, tenacity, vigor, tenderness, and compassion. When we embrace our virtues and incorporate their energy into our perception of life, we uncover our capacity for wholeness and wellness. Discovering and embracing our inner light, our potential, is the true spirit of healing.
It is the realization of this empowered healing spirit, this limitless potential that I want to share with you.
Here are some examples of how you might put your new definition and philosophy of healing into use. Rather than say “I am finally healing from the flu,” it is much better to say “My body is strong and getting stronger every day.” Instead of saying “The worst is behind me now, and I continue to heal from my injury,” it is more positive to say “My body is a miracle and very good at its job.”
By changing the way you express yourself, you begin to use positive words to define your healing and recovery. You’ll learn to do this as you use this program to unleash your internal power and your inner peacefulness.
Janet Nestor has been successfully using the Nurturing Wellness energetic protocol in her private practice for over six years to astounding results.
Janet is passionate about teaching, empowering and working with clients and groups in finding their life path and reconnecting to their joyful essence. Her first book, Pathways to Wholeness, is a mindfulness guidebook empowering readers to adopt a more relaxed, now focused and joy-filled life.Janet Nestor is also a professional teacher trained in diagnostic prescriptive education. She is a Diplomate in Comprehensive Energy Psychology, Certificated Soul Detective and natural intuitive.