Being strong and independent doesn’t just mean you own your own car and pay your bills, it also means you have an opinion, you stand up for yourself and you take care of your own needs. When you look at strong women in the workplace, you can bet your shoe budget that they are also strong women in the bedroom.
In a chicken and the egg situation, is it the strong bedroom presence that makes the strong woman in the workplace or vice versa? Who’s to know, but there are several components that can make you that kind of woman in both worlds–because really, there is no reason you can’t have it all. Use some of these tips and tricks to become the confident, sexy woman you know you really are and then unleash the beast in between the sheets and down the corporate halls.
Love and believe in yourself:
It’s time to ditch those negative thoughts. You can’t even begin to be confident and own a room if you don’t love yourself. Spend more time naked when you’re home alone and steal glances of yourself in the mirror. This is a great way to get comfortable with being naked and help you love your body. Also take some time to indulge in yourself and give yourself the personal love you need. There’s certainly no shame in it. Sex stores like Adam & Eve can even give you a hand. Owning your own sexual needs and knowing what you like gives you the ultimate power in the bedroom because you can show your partner how to get you there.
If these aren’t enough things to get you started on your own personal love affair, start incorporating some affirmations into your daily routine and consider starting an exercise regime. Exercising is a great way to flood your body with mood boosting endorphins and help you feel great in every outfit you put on.
Don’t be afraid to get what you want:
You can do this in two different ways. When it comes to the bedroom, don’t be afraid to initiate a little sexy time. Show your partner that you can be boss and lead them into the bedroom. From there, show them what you like (you should already know that because you’ve started loving yourself, right?) and don’t be afraid to give them a little hands on direction. Men appreciate this straight-forwardness and even find it sexy.
When it comes to work, don’t be afraid to ask for that promotion or raise you so desperately deserve. Don’t be afraid to stand up when you think something wrong is happening or when you want your opinion to be heard. And finally, don’t be afraid to be the leader that you are. Put yourself out there and your boss will surely notice.
Let yourself be honest even when it’s hard:
When it comes to the bedroom, honesty is very important but it can be hard to spit out at times. You don’t want to hurt your partner’s feelings nor scare them away, but that doesn’t mean you should clam up and keep your thoughts to yourself. Speak up if you aren’t getting the pleasure you want or want to explore in different ways like with BDSM or role playing. Communicating about sex can be intimidating, but you won’t make any improvements if you don’t say anything. Be honest and your partner will respect you for it, you may even find that they have some hidden fantasies, too.
Being honest in the workplace is very important if you want to become the head honcho. Let someone know if you see a flaw in a proposal or think you have a better idea (even if both of these cases are with someone who is higher up than you). If you made a mistake, own it. Everyone makes mistakes and your superiors will respect you more if you can accept responsibility. Don’t make excuses for why you are late or why something was wrong, just own up, correct it and move on. It shows you’re willing to change and learn.
If you can put these three things together, you are more than likely to see a boost in your work and sexual performance. Together the two will blend together and you’ll become an unstoppable force.