Trash or Treasure by Tahnya Kristina

Girl meets boy.  Girl falls in love with boy.   Girl and boy live happily ever after.  When we are young we are raised to think that this is how our lives will develop over time.  But when we reach our thirties and it still hasn’t happened exactly that way, we quickly jump to the conclusion that there is something wrong with us.

Sometimes I long for the days of the 1950’s.  It seems like relationships were much more simple back then. The days where teenage boys and girls would meet at a dance and then grow into men and women together.  There was no playing games, no three day rule before the man called back, and no wondering… does he love me or love me not.  If a boy and girl liked each other they would get married, have children, and spend the rest of their lives together.  Yes, sometimes I definitely long for those days.

Now in 2009 dating is much more complicated.  There are rules and standards to follow and if you don’t play the game well you will be voted out.  For many singles life doesn’t happen as we planned. So many men and women find themselves waiting around for love to find them.  Well, I’m an extremely impatient person and I am a “take matters into my own hands” kind of girl.  If love doesn’t find me, then I will go out and find love.

Men need to know that we are interested in them.  Sometimes they choose not to acknowledge our presence and maybe even our presents.  Yes, it is okay for women to send gifts to men whether or not they say thank you. If the man doesn’t acknowledge the thoughtful gesture, this doesn’t mean that he is not interested. It just means that he is playing hard to get.  So women, we need to try harder.  Put on your protective padding and get out into the playing field.  There are many of fish in the sea…you just need to drop in the bait.

I am not saying that we need to stalk our love interests but hopefully it won’t hurt anyone if women started to become the chaser rather than the chasee.  Throughout history women have always been the object of a man’s affection.  In 2009 women should take that object into their own hands.

They say that one man’s trash is another man’s treasure.  Well maybe one man’s stalker is another man’s love affection.  Anyways, stalking is such an unpleasant word.  I prefer the terms showing some interest, or letting him know that we notice him.  Ladies, just to be clear you should show some interest, even give him a little nudge. But do not under any circumstances push him so hard that he falls down.

Love Always,

Forget Him & Find Another

My name is Tahnya Kristina and I am 28 years old.  I was born and raised in a small town in Ontario, but, for the past 8 years I have lived in Montreal.  As I grow older I am realizing that men and women may just be from different planets.