By Christina Hart
Relationships are like the soundtracks to our lives. Sometimes, the beat is joyful and fast. Other times, it’s blue and slow. Everyone begins as strangers before they get to know each other, and the relationship builds and blossoms from that point on. What some people forget to do is build a relationship with themselves before they go looking for someone to love.
You need to fall in love with you before you fall in love with someone else. If you don’t truly and wholly love yourself, how could you expect another person to love you or ever believe that they do? Two broken people don’t make one whole person. Clinging onto another person for love and support won’t help you feel validated as a woman, you need to find that validation in yourself.
Almost everyone has insecurities. It takes courage to face them and realize that they may not be true or fact. It’s always easier to believe the negative over the positive, but try to remember the deepest compliments you’ve ever been given in regards to who you really are.
Many people struggle with being confident in themselves. It takes a strong woman to accept herself for who she is and be proud enough to have that confidence all year round. Everyone is individual. No two women are the same. Instead of being ashamed or embarrassed of certain quirks, celebrate them. That’s what makes you you.
Find yourself first. If you don’t know who you are, how could you be comfortable in a relationship? Do the things that you love, no matter who tells you that you can’t. Celebrate who you are inside and out. There is no blueprint for beauty or perfection. No one is perfect, but everyone is perfect in their own way.
Once you have this confidence in yourself and see yourself for who you truly are, you’ll be able to find someone who is good for you, someone who helps you be the best person you can be. Two people should complement each other. There should be a balance there. You should encourage each other, make each other laugh, and inspire each other. If you don’t love yourself, you’ll keep choosing the wrong partner because you may not believe that you deserve better. But you do.
Remind yourself that you deserve the best. If you’re putting in as much effort as possible into making your dreams come true, then your dream partner will follow. Don’t settle for any less than you deserve. Fall in love with you before you fall in love with someone who isn’t right for you.
