"woman feeding man"By Shelah Dean

As you may or may not know, I’m a foodie. So just try to imagine how excited I was when I learned about Eat What You Want Day (May 11th). I am the luckiest girl on the planet. My Hubby, Dale, not only enjoys cooking, he’s also a great cook, so it’s not like I don’t eat well every day. But eat anything? Without guilt? Whoa, Nellie, now you’re talkin’! Self-indulgence, here I come. I was recently in California visiting my much-loved friend Libby Gill. Her honey David cooked for us, all with fresh stuff he’d just picked up at the Farmers’ Market. OMG! Pasta with squid and clams to die for, followed by a selection of cheeses with lavender honey. Each course accompanied by the perfect wine. Pack my bags, I’m on my way back!

Today’s Everyday Foreplay tips and suggestions on how to indulge and ramp up your relationship are:

Shop together for fresh ingredients, then prepare and enjoy. Pair with the perfect wine. Even I know (and I’m not a cook) that preparing a delicious meal doesn’t have to be difficult. Check out this Mario Batali (one of my absolute favorite chefs) recipe book. What makes the meal delish is fresh ingredients made with lots of love.

You can’t go wrong with Godiva chocolates. You remember Lady Godiva. She’s the one who (according to legend) rode naked through the town to secure a tax break for the local peeps. Pay homage to her: get naked and then dive right into that box of chocolates!

Give your sweetie a jar of gourmet honey with a love note explaining how he or she makes your life so sweet.

Stretch your entertainment budget and go to the fanciest restaurant in town. Get all dressed up and don’t forget dessert! Better yet, order one dessert and share. Sharing food can be a very intimate experience.

Eating absolutely anything you want is my idea of perfect self-indulgence. Here’s what I’ve noticed, however. When I indulge myself by eating things I know I shouldn’t touch or eating more than I should, I only enjoy it for the moment. I pay for it later by feeling puffy, headachy, bloated, and sometimes slightly sick to my tummy. Even worse, the people around me sometimes suffer—if you know what I mean. Self-indulgent behavior has its price whether that’s self-indulgent eating, giving in to a bad mood, or buying stuff you don’t need or can’t afford. If you’re in a relationship, your partner usually ends up paying the price, too. So the next time you’re feeling self-indulgent, ask yourself if it’s really worth it or not. Then, dive in!

Wishing you a day of nothing but lovely, healthy, fresh food.

With love, Shela Dean

Relationship Coach and Author of Frequent Foreplay Miles Get your download of Shela’s best-sellling book at no cost by signing up for her Everyday Foreplay Tips. http://EverydayForeplay.com