How To Handle Your Finances and Money Stress – Part One
Financial stress is a killer. It systematically depletes health and can impact not only your day to day wellbeing; it can affect your long term health as well. It’s also been known to destroy relationships and turn what should be a harmonious and satisfying life into complete misery.
It sounds dramatic; unfortunately it’s the truth for millions of people. It’s so prevalent that there’s an acronym for it. It’s called MAD, Money Anxiety Disorder and according to the American Psychological Association, more people than ever before are being affected.
There are common signs that suggest you’re dealing with financial stress. They include but aren’t limited to:
* Constant worrying about money
* Anxiety attacks when you think about money
* Headaches and migraines
* Muscle tension and lower back pain
* Ulcers and digestive problems
* Neglecting to pay bills/Avoidance and denial
* Spontaneous shopping sprees
* Phone calls from bill collectors
If you’re dealing with financial stress and struggling to better manage your money there is hope. The best approach is a combination of money management and stress reduction techniques. It’s about feeling more in control over your life, your money, and your stress. Let’s take a look at five steps to help you manage your money and financial stress.
Step #1 Identify the Problem – What Exactly Are You Stressed About?
There are many different aspects of finances that you may be stressed about. The only way to truly reduce or eliminate stress is to identify the cause. And generalizations don’t work here. It may sound or feel simplistic, however it’s time to sit down and think about what you’re really stressed about. For example…
* Are you stressed about saving for retirement?
* Paying off student loans?
* Paying off credit card debt?
* Your lackluster investments and the stock market?
* Saving for your kid’s college?
* Buying a new house?
* Affording the mortgage or rent?
* Your credit report?
* Paying your bills?
The list could go on and on because each person has their own beliefs about money and their own feelings of lack, stress, and failure. When you’re trying to sleep at night, what financial fears run through your mind? What’s the biggest stressor?
If you’re unsure about what your biggest stressor is, grab a pencil and paper and start listing the things that stress you out. Money may only be one item on the list, however many other items might relate to your financial situation. Writing them down can help you achieve clarity.
Another tactic to help you identify the primary source of financial stress is to write down your financial goals. Often the top priority goal can identify your biggest source of stress. For example, if your goal is to pay off student loans then that’s also likely your primary source of anxiety.
Identifying the source of your stress is the first step. It’s actually a more significant step than you might realize because it creates awareness. When you’re aware of your thoughts, feelings, and emotions and you acknowledge the cause of them, you’re then able to take tangible steps both mentally and physically to change your reality. Next we’ll take a look at the mental aspect of controlling your financial stress and then we’ll dive into more physical tactics.
Stress Soothers and Daily Practices to Reduce Financial Stress
Let’s face it; you only have so much control over the world. You cannot, for example, control how the stock market performs or how your legislators vote on laws that impact your finances. Stressing over these elements doesn’t do you any good.
Surrendering to it allows you to let go of what you cannot control so you can focus on what you are able to control. So what are you able to control? Well you can control your actions. You can control what you spend your money on and how you allocate your income. You can also control, or learn to control, your emotions.
Remember that we just talked about being aware of your financial fears and stressors. Awareness is the first step to peace. For example, if you realize that you’re stressed about saving for retirement, you can take physical action like automating retirement savings so you don’t have to think, or worry, about it.
You can also learn to quell the fears when they arise with tactics like deep breathing, affirmations, or visualizations. Every time you feel yourself beginning to panic about your retirement savings you might imagine yourself sitting beside a lake with the sun rising over mountains in the background.
The point is that you’re the only person who can control your thoughts and actions. You cannot control the world. Surrender what you cannot control and embrace what you can.
Meditation The thought of meditation makes the vast majority of people run for the hills, or roll their eyes in mockery. Meditation doesn’t have to mean sitting still with your legs crossed for hours as you chant. You can meditate while walking, knitting, or lying on your bed.
The goal is to clear your mind of thoughts for a few minutes each day. It’s an incredibly powerful way to help you not only reduce your body’s reaction to stress but also to help you keep it at bay.
Here’s how meditation goes for most people…
You sit quietly and get ready to meditate. Thoughts enter your brain and before you know it you’re going over your day. Becoming aware that you’re “thinking” you set those thoughts aside and strive to focus on your breathing. You hear a dog bark and start thinking about your neighbors, or the errands you have to run that day. You once again realize you’re thinking and set them aside to focus on your breathing. With any luck you’re able to quiet your mind for about sixty seconds.
Meditation like any activity takes practice and dedication. Even if you’re only able to quiet your mind for a minute or two each day, it produces tremendous calming results. It also teaches you to become aware of your thoughts and to learn to control them. You can meditate through guided imagery, chanting, movement, breathing or whatever appeals most to you.
Laughter and Support and Good Old Fashioned Self Care
Finally, there’s really nothing better than self-care to help eliminate and manage financial stress. Exercise for example, fills your body with endorphins which are feel good hormones that produce a sense of calm. Exercise also helps your body physically manage the detrimental effects of stress.
If you’re performing an intense type of exercise then it also forces you to focus on what you’re doing which means you can’t think about money. Have you ever tried to balance your budget or plan your investments when you’re in the midst of a basketball game or at a Zumba class? It’s practically impossible.
Good self-care also includes getting enough sleep and eating a healthy diet. Did you know that some foods, for example foods that are high in sugar, actually make stress worse? They heighten your adrenal response which releases cortisol, that stress hormone, and you feel worse.
They cause inflammation in your body which is the precursor for many diseases from cancer to diabetes. Eating healthy whole foods helps your body manage the effects of stress. You have more energy and your emotions are more balanced.
Laughter and the company of friends and family are another component of self-care that cannot be ignored. Surround yourself with people you love and people who support you. If you’re struggling financially, that also means being with people who understand that a five course meal and a limo rental are not in your budget but a potluck meal at home with rented movies or a game of cards is just as much fun.
With the mind taken care of and your stress levels beginning to subside, now it’s time to take some action to feel more in control of your money and your financial well-being. We’re going to start by talking about the B word.