There’s always a point in relationships when things don’t go as smoothly as expected.  Relationship problems arise, often because of the conflicting beliefs of the people involved, or the interruption of other matters, or the difficulty to express ones self in ways that other people can’t actually listen to and comprehend to what’s being said.  Occasionally, there are those who simply don’t know what to do to build a good relationship.

Secure relationships provide support, ease, and excitement, but can also be the cause of pain, misery, and disappointments.  The natural stages of ups and downs in attraction, vigor, and eagerness can add stress to relationships.  Things such as job and monetary pressures and differing goals and expectations among partners play a part in creating wedges between couples.

The most common relationship problems include poor communication, poor problem-solving skills, inadequate partner support, and lack of quality time together.

Good communication in a relationship is important, without it, there is greater possibility of relationship problems arising.  You can begin by getting rid of all distractions such the everyday noise around you such as television, the internet and yes, even the radio. It is important to plan and set aside quality time that suits both partners and then make sure you honor that commitment.

Poor problem-solving skills affect relationships. Working together to solve problems rather than being a lone-ranger, will help create better communication and a closeness that may be eluding you. Together solving even the simplest conflicts, can create more intimacy. Being able to recognize the root of the problem as well as finding the appropriate solution is as important as well. Saying I’m sorry is huge in building and repairing relationship issues. So often couples avoid this part of the equation.  Saying I’m sorry to some implies guilt, when that might not even be the case.  It is not important to assign blame as much as it is to be sincerely humbled by a negative experience.

Inadequate partner support is when partners start projecting unreasonable demands on one another and then expecting the other person to meet them. Look at the things you expect from one another and discuss if they are reasonable and attainable or if they are ultimately unimportant to achieving a healthy relationship.

Not being able to effectively communicate one’s needs, can also result in building wedges between couples.  Working toward fulfilling one another’s needs can build a bridge that no one can destroy.

It is important that each person in the relationship learn to give AND to receive support in order for the relationship to flourish.

Lack of quality time together is another common relationship problem. Sharing common interests helps but it is not the only a part of problem.  Even when you don’t enjoy the things your partner enjoys, making the effort goes a long way in creating a stronger bond of love and respect. This can be  a simple fix, by simply spending time being together.

Challenges, big and small should be dealt early on in any relationship.  Waiting too long can result in permanent damage such as distrust, lack of understanding and ultimately losing interest in making the relationship work.  Handling problems head on more often results in building stronger, more loving relationships.

And isn’t that what we all want?