A lot of the problems we have in our relationships stem from a lack of understanding, in other words we have no idea why guys act the way they do. In fact, they often don’t know why they act the way they do so it’s no surprise we have trouble deciphering their responses.
However, before we begin to explore these fundamental differences, it’s worth taking a step back and looking at ourselves in the mirror because if we don’t learn to finally accept who and what we are, we will never be able to make the necessary changes to become the woman men adore. The biggest problem we have right now is our perception of ourselves. Women’s lib has been taken to a whole new level and from simply meaning that women should have equal rights to men in society, it has come to mean that women should not be women and they should act more like men.
The reason for this is quite simple. Men are competitive by nature, women are not. Therefore, to succeed in the workplace, more and more women have had to become just as competitive as men and in many cases more so because they start out with a handicap in the eyes of the competition. They are women. Unfortunately, though, many women have taken this competition to a whole new level and their drive to succeed has convinced them that being a woman means being weak, so they have to shut off their feelings and act more like the guys they work with.
Sadly women are mistaken because our femininity is in no way a weakness, but, in fact, a strength, as it is the one thing that allows us to influence men much more effectively than any argument or competition ever will. Men are disarmed by a woman’s softness simply because men were designed to fight and women were designed to nurture.