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Are Your High Heels Keeping You Away From Your Soul Mate?

By Marla Martenson

"High Heels"Finding your soul mate can be a daunting task for anyone. We all have our wish list of the qualities that our perfect partner will possess. Let’s not kid ourselves, the American dream is “to have it all”, “hold out for the best” and, “don’t settle.” After all, as the old saying goes, it’s just as easy to fall in love with a rich man as a poor man, right? But just how long are singles willing to wait for the perfect specimen with whom to hook? As a matchmaker, I often have trouble finding a match for men of a certain height.

No matter what the woman’s height is, I often hear, “I don’t date anyone under 6’0’ tall. I naturally pose the question, “Why?” The reason? “I lurv my heels, and even though I am 5’7, in heels I am 5’11’ and I don’t want to be shorter than my date. Then I hope that you and your four- inch pair of Jimmy Choos will live happily ever after.

The average height of the American male is about 5’9.’ Many women are missing out on some great guys because of their height requirements. Some of our sexiest and funniest actors measure in at 5’7’ and under, Tom Cruise, Ben Stiller, Jack Black, Elijah Wood, Al Pacino, and the adorable Harry Potter star, Danielle Radcliff.

A confident and sexy woman doesn’t mind if she is the same height or a bit taller than her man when she wears her heels. Actually, it gives easier access to smooching! So ease up a bit on your self imposed rules and snag yourself a soul mate!


Marla Martenson is the dating expert in the land of beautiful people. Early in her career, she turned her talent for dating into a full time profession, helping the rich and famous find their soul mates.  She went on to become an author of two relationship advice books. Excuse Me, Your Soul Mate Is Waiting, Good Date, Bad Date and her memoir, Diary of a Beverly Hills Matchmaker. Marla has been featured on The Today Show, WGN Chicago Morning News, KUSI San Diego Morning Show, Urban Rush, San Diego Living and Better TV, as well as over fifty radio shows including Coast to Coast AM and The Cooper Lawrence Show. 

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  1. I believe that Nicole Kidman said after she divorced Tom, that she “could now wear high heels again”. He didn’t like that his wife was towering over him, so it’s not just women who have a problem with this! And I’m sorry, but neither of the men mentioned are sexy!

  2. Glad to hear about this this information. Thanks for sharing


  3. Felicia Nicks says:

    I am actually a little bit taller than my husband and I still throw on my heels! You just have to have self confidence! Great post!

  4. Some women get attracted easier than others, some women more demanding in every aspect of relationship than others too. I like short men and tall men, it depends on a man and how he makes me feel.