"Divorce icon"How to deal with stress after divorce By Lee Block

1. Have a good pity party. Cry it all out; sometimes that is what makes you feel better. Don’t feel bad about throwing the party…just get it all out, so you can then move on to feel better.

2. Counseling, Coaching, Therapy. There are times when we need the help of someone else. This is one of those times. Don’t rely on your friends to help you, rely on someone who is not emotionally involved. It helps to have an unbiased third party to listen and give advice.

3. Self-care. Take a bubble bath, put on some make-up, meditate, put on your cute jeans and boots. Get up and out of the house and out of your PJ’s or sweats. You will be amazed at how much better you feel with a shower and a bit of make-up.

4. Take a long walk or go workout or do some yoga. Exercise lets off steam and enables you to think clearer as well as gives you energy, which makes you feel better.

5. Make a wish list. Some people would say that making a wish list would be depressing. After all, these are things you WISH you could do, but can’t do due to time or financial constraints. But, if you make a wish list and set each wish as a goal for yourself, you have given yourself something to work towards, which will make you feel better about where you are in life.

6. Read a good book. Between work, kids and sleeping, there is little time left for reading. Pick books that you have wanted to read, but haven’t had the time. Carve out 30minutes a day and sit in your favorite chair, with your favorite cup of tea and read. You will be smiling at the end of those 30 minutes.

7. Meet a friend for lunch Even though you don’t feel great, a warm hug and a smile from another adult will automatically infuse you with strength and well being. It is a fact, that touch is vital to existence, and when that comes in the form of pure love from a friend, you will feel better instantly.

 

Lee Block is the premiere expert on divorce. She launched ‘The Post Divorce’Chronicles to help women cope with the end of a marriage. She’s also a national divorce coach.

Lee says divorce can be as emotionally draining as a death! She has 7 key steps on dealing with post-divorce stress syndrome. For more information, visit: www.LeeBlock.com